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Do you think Courtney objectifies herself either intentionally or unintentionally?
Anonymous

fem-catalyst:

fuckyeahcourtneystodden:

I don’t think any woman does it intentionally, tbh.

We are conditioned to do it, as women. Our value and worth is in how we look and what our bodies are like. We are conditioned to try to look conventionally attractive in a way that patriarchy deems acceptable. Our entire lives have been conditioned this way. I don’t think it’s ever really intentional so much as survival.

So all the pressure on men to look appealing to women (according to what women find attractive - or is that internalised patriarchy?) is brought about by the patriarchy as well?

Yes - a society based around male acceptance and male privilege tells women only to find certain men attractive..

Of course it’s patriarchy. Patriarchy values aggressive masculinity. Patriarchy harms men and tries to box them into roles too.

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Do you think Courtney objectifies herself either intentionally or unintentionally?
Anonymous

I don’t think any woman does it intentionally, tbh.

We are conditioned to do it, as women. Our value and worth is in how we look and what our bodies are like. We are conditioned to try to look conventionally attractive in a way that patriarchy deems acceptable. Our entire lives have been conditioned this way. I don’t think it’s ever really intentional so much as survival.

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Anonymous

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Anon, I would love to discuss with you privately because of, as you put it, “how aggressively people react to it”. Feel free to message me logged in and I will reply privately otherwise it’s not something I want to discuss on my blog at this time.

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Your feminism has changed since you began this blog but in the beginning you were more a lib fem than a rad fem. do you feel like it's harder to talk about feminism on this blog since Courtney would be liberal than radical with her feminism?
Anonymous

Let me be clear that I do not identify as a radical feminist and I find issues in radical feminism…. but I also no longer identify as a liberal feminist because there are a plethora of issues in liberal feminism that I am no longer interested in supporting. If I had to describe my feminism I’d say I’m more radical than liberal, but more liberal than radical, which is confusing I suppose but there are pieces of each that I like and also dislike.

Actually my favourite way to put it is that I read the radical feminism newsletter but I’m not purchasing a club membership.

Anyway. Sometimes it’s hard for me on this blog, for sure. Courtney is definitely very liberal in her feminism and there are no doubt things she does or says that contradict my own feminist beliefs. For example the whole glamourous make-up hair dresses heels glam for days thing. Like… I know I rec it like every other day but reading Beauty and Misogyny by Sheila Jeffreys changed my entire life and how I view myself as a woman and other women as well, in regards to beauty and performing femininity and what utter bullshit it all is and is not even in the slightest “”empowering”“.

So that’s something I struggle with. Knowing that the whole beauty industry and taking part in it is total bullshit but also not wanting to alienate women even though I take a lot of issues in conforming to patriarchal standards of beauty and expectations for women. I still do some of them. I shave my legs like 6 or 7 times a year I guess. Every couple of months. I wear make-up sometimes, but it’s a self-reflection thing I’ve been working on where I document the times I wear make-up, why I felt compelled to put it on, what I was feeling at the time, etc etc., to try to examine the hold that “looking pretty” has on me and why I feel like I ought to “look pretty”.

On one hand I feel like liberal feminism can be sort of an introductory thing to feminism but it’s not critical enough for me anymore and I feel that that’s dangerous to young girls who are getting introduced to feminism because liberal feminism is rife with white, mid-upper class, able-bodied, educated, conventionally attractive, thin-privileged women who have it relatively easy in the grand scheme of things. And liberal feminism is never as intersectional as I’ve wanted it to be, either. And it doesn’t critique and dissect the implications of patriarchy on women’s lives and it’s far too choosey-choosey to be successful in any way?

So yeah. Definitely it’s hard for me sometimes, trying to reconcile my personal beliefs around feminism and my more-radical-less-liberal stance with the obviously liberal side of things that is Courtney, her supporters, and her life. I try really hard to keep it level, though. I will probably always support and respect Courtney and speak up against the misogyny dealt her way, though, even when I don’t really support or agree with some stuff anymore.

Sorry this is kind of all over the place. I hope that helped a bit.

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